Dating Tips: Letting a girl know you're for real
Or better yet, how do you let her know that the
vibe you?re putting off in
the beginning is the real you?
How does she know that after she sleeps with you
all of what you said will
be backed up?
All three of these questions have the same answer.
Credibility.
When most guys think they don?t have enough value,
90% of the time, it?s
credibility they lack. In fact, most of
everything used to create value
these days only serves to make a nasty woman-
repelling player vibe.
(and anyone who?s anyone KNOWS I don?t even teach
value. Not for a damn
second!)
?Player vibe? is not actually a bad vibe, but a
mistake in building and
maintaining credibility.
Being able to create credibility is one of the
key components to sleeping
with a girl quickly.
The other component is sexual tension.
And as a good student of pick-up, you know that
some women need sexual
tension to sleep with you and the other half need
credibility first. (You do
know that, right?)
So let?s get down to it:
There are three levels of credibility.
1. Safety
2. Commonality
3. Direction
Safety: The most basic and fundamental level of
credibility, you need to
demonstrate SAFETY before a woman will be alone
with you and sleep with you.
Commonality: You need to demonstrate commonality
in order for a woman to
continue sleeping with you, or have a
relationship with you.
Direction: You need to show direction in order to
get a woman to leave her
current boyfriend or change her existing life
plans to be with you.
A WORD ABOUT SOCIAL PROGRAMMING ->
You have to realize that every person you meet is
socially programmed in a
different way. Even you have social programming.
We all do.
It?s not necessarily a bad thing. On the contrary,
it?s very useful.
Realize that although we understand a lot of a
woman?s behaviors come from
her social programming, we can?t expect her to
realize that.
While men have evolved an instinct to try to
sleep with as many women as
possible, women have evolved an instinct to
choose guys who demonstrate a
high chance of sticking around to raise children.
And this instinct is reinforced by social
programming.
Her programming is her reality. Her programming
is literally her world.
And credibility is about showing you understand
her world.
HERE?S AN EXAMPLE ->
Think about if you were in your bedroom.
Comfortably warm sitting in a
chair.
And then a guy came in. And he said he was cold.
And wanted to turn up the heat. Then he told you
he liked the couch you were
sitting in.
And asked if he could urinate in the corner.
You would feel pretty uncomfortable with him. You
might even think he?s
crazy.
He?s showing you that he?s not seeing the same
reality as you. He?s ?in his
own world?.
I bet you wouldn?t trust a guy like that.
Because he has shown you that he doesn?t
understand your world, and doesn?t
respect your world - you probably wouldn?t
connect with him, or feel like
giving him compliance.
This is how women feel when you don?t demonstrate
credibility.
If she thinks that it?s a bad thing for people to
kiss and tell (and most
women do) -> You should show her you ALSO believe
it?s bad for people to
kiss and tell.
The fact that you have the same perceptions about
the world as her will
build your credibility immensely.
You can think of the three levels in this way:
Safety - It?s safe to have you in her world.
Commonality - You see the same things in her
world. (Similar perceptions,
values, and goals)
Direction - You have the ability to rearrange and
alter her world.
These are best demonstrated in order.
And you can get really good at this. At first,
guys are usualy good at
meeting a certain kind of woman.
It?s because he naturally understands a certain
type of worldview.
But as you get good, you?ll start to be able to
match ANY woman?s worldview.
The best way of doing this is by anticipating her
thoughts and verbalizing
her feelings or views about the world, as if they
are your own.
At first you will just be remembering things she?
s said in the past, and
then repeating it after she?s forgotten she?s
said anything.
Then you will get good at pacing her reality and
leading. Eventually it gets
to the point where you can intuitively understand
her reality. Then she will
trust you to change it for her. You enter her
world, and then start teaching
her new things about HER world.
That?s when you know you get this thing.
When someone comes along who understands a woman?
s reality so well, she
doesn?t just think he?s perceptive and skilled,
she just feels a connection.
She thinks ?He?s just like me!?
This is really the easiest thing in the world.
Yet so many people mess it
up.
It?s a major piece and you?ll watch your game
improve dramatically once you
get this.
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