Dating Tips: Creating Sensual Tension
Sensual tension is paramount in any interaction
with a woman. It is the presence of a controlled
arousal state, in the absence of overt sensual
interest. It is the energy, or charge of the
interaction. Its application is subtle, but
powerful.
There are many different conceptualizations of
sensual tension floating around in the seduction
community.
Some of these techniques are better than others,
and can definitely improve the quality and
success of your pickups. I prefer a very pure
definition of sensual tension because it is
grounded in real sensual desire, and a very
natural way of magnifying the tension felt by the
woman.
When the time is right, I create sensual tension
by focusing my sensual desire on my woman, but
not making any overt advances. I maintain
intrigue, a sense of ambiguity, which keeps her
focused on me, and directs her mind toward
sensual thoughts. My state is transferred to her,
and she is now aroused. It is then only a matter
of handling logistics through leadership and
compliance techniques.
There are two reasons why a sensually aroused
state is so important. First, women love to be
become intimate. A sensual man is valuable to a
woman because he can give her pleasure. Women are
attracted to men who are attracted to women.
The second reason is more subtle. There is a
phenomenon I call "state-transfer." Have you ever
been in a bad mood, and a friend came by in a
really great, excited mood?
Your mood probably changed, and you found
yourself smiling and cheering up in spite of
yourself.
How do you feel around someone when they are
nervous?
You feel nervous too! Think of a time you were
with a woman, say a girlfriend, and she was
obviously very horny and sensually arousing, but
you weren't doing anything sensual. You probably
got excited because she was excited. This is how
humans hypnotize each other in every day life -
we transfer our states to each other.
State transfer may occur on a metaphysical,
psychic energy level. But more so, a state is
transferred with non-verbal sub communication.
When you are turned on, your voice subtly
reflects your state, as do your facial
expressions, eye contact, manner of touching,
body language, and a million other little things
to numerous to try to micromanage.
How to have a controlled arousal state
It's not as simple as just being turned on,
although that's part of it. State control is
vital - if you are nervous or uncomfortable, you
won't be able to get sensually aroused. (State
control is not only vital in seduction, but in
life. It allows you to stay calm, generally happy,
and more productive. In spiritual terms, it is
sometimes called "staying centered" or having "
peace of mind.")
The best way to stay calm and comfortable in
social situations is experience. Socialize more,
go out, get experience talking to women.
Meditation, good diet, avoidance of harmful
indulgences like drug use, television, internet,
and regular exercise all help.
For the "getting turned on" part, raising your
testosterone level will have an incredible effect.
Natural ways to increase testosterone include
heavy weight training, zinc supplementation,
eating lots of animal protein, and if possible,
have a regular intimacy.
You already know how to get aroused. During your
interactions with women, simply focus on what she'
d look like naked, or imagine become intimate
with her, or whatever fun little thoughts you
want to entertain.
Creating Tension
The tension component is really an extension of
the second level of the Attraction Hierarchy -
Intrigue. Intrigue can be described in two ways.
It can be seen as a lack of over-validating a
woman, or getting her attention fixated on you by
being ambiguous and holding back information.
These are flip sides of the same coin. Applied to
sensual tension, we enter a sensual state, but
don't verbalize our desire.
If we did, she may like it, or not like it, but
at now she knows where she stands - she is
validated.
That isn't bad, but it's not optimal. She has you
figured out, and knows you want her, which gives
her the option of forgetting about you and
focusing elsewhere. You are "solved."
Another key point about verbalizing sensual
interest is that it puts her in a position where
she has to agree to it. She must consciously
admit that this is leading of becoming intimate.
Again, that's not bad, but is not optimal, and
sometimes can create a mental block in her mind
for getting isolated with you.
Imagine sitting in a room with a closed treasure
chest in front of you. Then you open it and find
gold coins. When is the chest more interesting?
True, the gold coins are great, but there's no
longer a mystery. You can even forget about the
gold coins for a while to go watch TV or call a
friend, because those coins aren't going anywhere.
But before you know what's in there, that chest
preoccupies your mind and keeps your attention.
Once you have mastered that concept, you're well
on your way.
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